Every single day that I decide not to fashion a flute out of another human being’s femur bone is a small victory. I know that I am a flawed human being that occasionally has an unreasonable temper. I know that I can occasionally let my self-interest overcome the good of the group. I, like most people, am neither a saint nor a sociopath. Most human beings are complicated characters that are somewhere in between. I am no different.
However, it is exactly because I am very consciously aware of these traits that I feel that we should be kind to other people when we can overcome our own chemicals and tribal biases. As long as human behavior is not hurting others I believe it is the height of self-righteousness to try to control other people through the law. There is a huge difference in my mind between stating your beliefs and trying to impose your will on others through the power of law.
In your personal life, again as long as you are not hurting others, you can be as ignorant as you wish, though I would advise against it. But when people try to prevent others from experiencing their own journey towards happiness and meaning, it makes my head spin. Most of us human beings, I’d say 99% of us, have our own shit to sort out and should be concerned with that before trying to impose our will on others.
Being gay doesn’t hurt anyone. In fact being gay, being of a different race, being male or female, being from another country, are all accidents of birth. Show me someone trying to ban gay marriage and I’ll show you a motherfucker with too much time on their hands that should be looking in the mirror first. And if you don’t want to spend time looking in the mirror, go down to the local orphanage or something else that will be of some good to people. If you believe that gay people shouldn’t have the right to marry, that women shouldn’t be in control of their own bodies, that new immigrants are somehow less deserving than the less recent immigrants of your ancestors, I may disagree with you, but that is your right. However, again, actively campaigning to have these beliefs codified by law is exactly where I feel the line should be drawn.
Although I don’t believe in the Fall of Man as having actually happened, I love it as a story. We are all flawed. We are all on a daily struggle to overcome our chemical makeup and our imperfect knowledge and this strange ocean of absurd culture that we are born into.
There is only one place in life we should be trying to reach. As the great Kurt Vonnegut said: “Goddamn it, you’ve got to be kind.”